“You know you’re in love when you can’t fall asleep because reality is finally better than your dreams.” ~ Dr. Seuss
Twin flame partnerships have recently come to the fore as the new must-have spiritual relationship. In hearing about it, we may turn to our partners and ask, is this who I’ve been sitting next to for the last few years? Hoorah!
But in many ways the twin flame connection is deeply misunderstood. Our Hollywood upbringings; those that have been drip-feeding us smooch ever since that day we first set our eyes upon the silver screen have in actual fact been heavily misleading, and the path may not be romantic at all.
The twin flame connection is the one we experience in our last incarnation on the lower dimensions. It’s a connection that propels us – violently, forcefully and even painfully – forward into our superhuman and genius like potentials. And to get to those crystalline caves we often need catalysts that may not turn out to be as sugar-sweet as we first imagined.
Life has a sense of humour, and our twin flames may actually take the form of an abusive lover, friend, fleeting meeting with a stranger on a long train journey, or even a much loved pet. In fact, it’s the soul-mates and karmic partnerships we may find ourselves having more fun with.Yet, the ones that catapult us into ourselves in a forceful and provocative manner are most certainly the twin flame. And that my friends, is the one we will remember on our death beds.
Here are three potential pathways of the twin flame, and how they each manifest their own individual gifts to humanity:
The Creative Catalyst
A dramatic and often violent relationship has fueled many a twin flame relationship residing in the upper echelons of the third dimension. That is, the upper (or inner) dimensions of genius.
These types of relationships have triggered some of the greatest works of fiction, scientific breakthroughs and greatest political manifestos of all (known) time. Those works of art that history still champions, usually informing some cultural canon or other. However, these relationships more often than not belong to the painful end of the love spectrum.
Realizing that losing the greatest love of all time will spawn your greatest creative heights as a human being is heartbreaking to say the least, and the brightest of stars have harnessed these raw emotions to create truly magnificent things.
By harnessing the darkest of emotions these people have increased their receptivity to source energy and transformed the separation with their partners into a reunion with God. By doing this they have transcended the illusion of ‘the one’ that operates in the lower dimensions, whilst accessing raw creative dialogues with their higher selves.
The creative’s twin flame triggered their access to these inner states by providing a great love who was essentially bad for them; propelling them further into unhealthy lifestyles and extremes of contrast on the road of polarity.
It isn’t for everyone and generally ‘messengers’; higher dimensional beings born voluntarily in the lower dimensions go through this in order to deliver works of art that lift the entire planet’s consciousness with a ripple of divine (but essentially materialistic) creativity in order to aid humanity’s ascension.
WARNING: When on this path it can be easy to get lost in ‘ego’, or at least the illusion of it.
The Charitable Catalyst
The point of the charitable catalyst however, is to release us from ego. These twin flames aid the receiver to transcend all past hurts and family karma so that they can start again. By transcending past patterns energetically by forgiving them, the ‘lost’ twin raises their vibration and opens the gateway to welcome in the reflection of their higher selves; that is, their twin flame.
Like an angel from heaven, these people usually come delivered in a surprising package; perhaps a gender or degree of beauty different to what we were expecting (they may even have a terrible disability that will question our attitudes considerably or dramatically change our lifestyles).
Together as a team, the charitable twins gain access to their compassion consciousness and dedicate their lives to altruism. This may be protecting endangered animals, setting up a children’s home, travelling to and settling in another country and building villages or campaigning against conglomerates that are threatening the planet.
The Contentment Catalyst
Twin flames who meet after a time of intense drama in their lives; for example a string of abusive relationships or ones that reflect the participant’s desire to find themselves or a missing fragment of their soul usually desire to find contentment with their partner.
This isn’t to say they don’t do great things together. These twins’s focus may be raising children outside the 3D matrix or building an intentional community of like-minded people around them in the form of a tribe.
Whatever the goal is for these twins, they seek to enjoy life and when they’re together everyone around them finds themselves smiling. These twins have an infectious energy together, and it’s one which spreads like wildfire, raising consciousness instantly.
By putting out their good vibrations, contentment twins like to celebrate life; sharing wholesome and nutritious foods, making music together, or teaching wellness such as yoga or meditation.So, which life path do you find yourself in? Perhaps the creative, heartbroken and shaken to the core by this new buy inaccessible love? Or perhaps it’s the surprising package, the person who changed your entire life and wrenched you from the shallows into your true divine purpose? Life really is getting interesting isn’t it? Good luck and get ready to move mountains.
Five Questions to Help You Decide if You’re in the Right Relationship
“Healthy relationships should always begin at the spiritual and intellectual levels-the levels of purpose, motivation, interests, dreams and personality.” ~ Myles Monroe
There is a funny thing we tend to do in regards to romantic relationships, and that is over-complicate things.We become so attached to the idea of having someone, or keeping the one we have, that we make something that is supposed to be magical, romantic, serendipitous and turn it into something we are afraid to lose, have to “put up” with, and/or love to complain about to our closest confidantes.
Often we hear people complaining or begrudgingly speaking of their partner so much it makes us wonder if said person has forgotten that a romantic relationship is still something that we do get to choose whether or not we are in, and not something we are forever stuck with.
Often things such as time, fear, and unhealed emotional hurts are so interwoven in our relationships that it can completely distract us from maintaining the most important part of any relationship, and that is our own selves and our own happiness.
And even though all relationships are manifested in our lives for a reason, even if it’s a learning lesson, it is important to always have an inner dialogue with our own heart to assess when it is time to move on from an unhealthy and stagnant partnership.
Below are five questions to either ask yourself or your partner to determine that you are with someone who is helpful rather than harmful to your personal evolution. 5 Questions That Will Help You Determine if They Are the “Right” One
“A loving relationship is one in which the loved one is free to be himself-to laugh with me, not at me; to cry with me; but never because of me; to love life, to love himself, to love being loved. Such a relationship is based upon freedom and can never grow in a jealous heart.” ~ Leo F. Buscaglia
Is he/she nice to me?
Okay this may sound really remedial, but unfortunately as humans we often become so plagued with doubt, indecision, and fear that we forget that in actuality most things in life are really simple, and romantic relationships are no different.
This question may require some people to get brutally honest with their situation, and force them to face head on the justifications and excuses they’ve been giving their partner for years. Of course we all get in bad moods from time to time, and we can often take that out on those closest to us.
But if a common theme in your relationship is having to explain your partner’s behavior to yourself, your kids or your friends and family it may be a sign of a deeper issue. Our feelings are our greatest tool in helping us to determine if our relationship is beneficial to us. Loving relationships are marked by two people who are… NICE TO EACH OTHER. And “nice” never needs excuses or justifications, it just feels authentically good in our heart.
What do I love most about them? What do they love most about me? (this will require you to ask your partner)
The answer to these two questions can carry huge implications. A person rooted in egoic tendencies and overall selfishness often seeks out people who will enforce their self image, one who will serve them while they do little to serve the other.
If your answer or your partner’s answer are always that the other one makes you/them feel, for instance they may say, “I love that you give me compliments all the time” it may be an indication that the relationship is more self-serving rather than an equal partnership.
Of course we can love these things about someone, but a person who truly adores their partner will most likely give an answer that shows they see the unique quirks of their special someone, for example: “I love the way you laugh when you think something is really funny.”
“A healthy relationship will never require you to sacrifice your friends, your dreams, or your dignity.” ~ Mandy Hale
Are they an asset or a liability?
Here’s another question that really should be one of the most common things we ask ourselves in regards to our relationship.
Since relationships are something that we get to pick for ourselves it is important that we pick someone who is making us better, and more motivated to grow as a person.
Often we meet people whose personal issues, or life issues are completely disproportionate to the ones that we are dealing with and it is at that point where said person becomes more of a liability to us rather than an asset.
Of course we all go through our ups and downs in life, and healthy partnerships are marked by people who support each other through everything.
However, if it comes to be that one person seems to always be “down” and the other one is playing out the archetype of savior, then this can be the mark that the scales have tipped completely. It is never healthy for one person to drain all of their own energy and their partner’s energy in trying to get back up.
Were they happy before they met me? Was I happy before I met them?
There is always exceptions, but most of the time healthy, flourishing, relationships are found when we are at our happiest. When unhappy people go out looking for someone to fulfill them, this is where we seem to get those “lesson instead of a blessing” types of people.And again, nothing happens by chance, so if you have found yourself in one of these types of relationships try to extract the things you have learned about yourself by being with the wrong one, it can only help you when the right one comes along.
Why did I click on this article?
Here’s another one that is going to require brutal honesty with ourselves. Yes, we can say minor curiosity purposes, but if you have found yourself taking every “is he/she right for you?” quiz in every magazine, clicking on every article with a heading like “10 signs he/or she is ‘the one'”, and things of that nature it’s most likely because you have some shred of doubt that you are with the person of your dreams. And that’s totally ok!
Articles such as these are showing up in your life most likely because you are trying to wake yourself up and come to terms with the fact that you are questioning things. The doubt that the little voice in the back of your mind seems to have about your person is there for a reason!
An important thing to remember is, when you feel loved, and you love, there will be no doubt. A person knows when their heart is full of joy, and when they are truly being respected and adored by another.
Signs You May Have Found Your Soulmate
“I seem to have loved you in numberless forms, numberless times… In life after life, in age after age, forever. My spellbound heart has made and remade the necklace of songs, That you take as a gift, wear round your neck in your many forms, In life after life, in age after age, forever.” ~ Rabindranath Tagore, Selected Poems
Soul Mate: Someone who is aligned with your soul and is sent to challenge, awaken and stir different parts of you in order for your soul to transcend to a higher level of consciousness and awareness.
Finding our soulmate is simple. We do not have to do anything but wait and receive this beautiful gift from the universe. The hard part can occur when trying to decipher whether it is the right time and person.
Of course, there is also a time and place when we meet our soulmates. You can meet your soulmate many times throughout your life but still only tap into the potential, or see these specific signs when it is the right time for both of you.
Another thing people struggle with is the idea of choosing a soulmate as a life-partner. We may meet many of our soulmates throughout our life who come to teach us worthwhile lessons; but what are the signs of a soulmate that will last?
These are the signs you may have found your soulmate~
You are happy and peaceful
The first way to know if you’ve found your soulmate is to look at your own state of being. Though life continues to have ups and downs, you should feel that the majority of your life feels good. Sometimes people mistake intensity for soul; so they reason that if a relationship is intense and tumultuous, then it must be the real deal.
This is not always true, the most meaning relationships are deep, but calm and happy at the same time. Being with a soulmate also gives you a feeling of peace, and the feeling that you do not have to keep searching.
Disagreements/arguments are chances to grow
“The meeting of two personalities is like the contact of two chemical substances: if there is any reaction, both are transformed.” ~ Carl Jung
With a soulmate, every disagreement can turn into a potential for growth and positive change. You should feel with your soulmate that disagreements turn into a growing experience instead of a dysfunctional argument.
Explaining instead of fighting, coming together instead of putting up guards, conclusions instead of vicious cycles. Finding your soulmate is always a growing experience in itself. Coming together with another is always a chemical reaction, but with a soulmate, the reaction should be one of healthy growing.
They bring the best out of you
With a soulmate, everyday is a learning experience because you challenge each other in a way that gently pushes the other to grow toward their highest selves. With a soulmate, you should be able to look at the challenges presented from them, and see clearly that they are the right challenges for you.
For example, your soulmate will push you closer and closer to the balanced version of your personality. Every challenge should end in the thought that you’ve gained more insight and balance from the experience.
In short: your soulmate pushes you to be a better person, and you do the same for them.
You support each other
A soulmate will support your dreams and aspirations because they want to see you achieve and be happy.
“A loving relationship is one in which the loved one is free to be himself — to laugh with me, but never at me; to cry with me, but never because of me; to love life, to love himself, to love being loved. Such a relationship is based upon freedom and can never grow in a jealous heart.” ~ Leo F. Buscaglia
With your soulmate you should feel that you are safe and secure, as if you are back home. Home isn’t a place, it’s a person. You should feel completely comfortable in the presence of your soulmate. You also feel a sense of security because there is a mutual respect for each other that prevents the dysfunction of an abusive relationship.
You are able to share silence
“I closed my mouth and spoke to you in a hundred silent ways.” ~ Rumi
Past the hustle and bustle of good conversation, activities, sex, and shared interests, there is a place where souls meet, and that is in silence.
If you can sit together in silence and feel comfortable and at peace, then you have found something very special. When two people can be quiet together and just enjoy spending these special moments together, then they have found a very profound meeting place of the souls.
You know and understand each other
Soulmates understand each other, and each other’s essence. They know the other person past the externalities, or their likes and dislikes; they understand them in a way that no other can. They feel as if they’ve known them forever, and perhaps also that they would like to know them for the rest of their forever.
And the last one would be: You just feel it. It should feel right. Listen to your heart and intuition, because they know best the ways of the soul. This is why it is called a soulmate. It is not the mate of mind or body, it comes from the soul, and flourishes there. Listen to the fluttering of your soul as it whispers it’s truths to you.
Your soulmate will feel these as well if you are truly destined to unite. If you have not yet found your soulmate, look out for these signs, because these signs will point you in the right direction.