If you can find the time to complain then you can make the time to give thanks. If you can find the time to gossip then you can find the time to acknowledge someone for being good to you. If you can find the time to whine then you can also find the time to be kind. Your way of being shapes your whole life. If you are always finding the negative in something then maybe you should reevaluate your blessings. You must seek the good and the positive from life. Being mean/angry/bitter doesn't make it real, it makes you mean/angry/bitter. How sad for you to have this beautiful life and choose the negative road. Embrace life. Let the ugly go.