The same thing you want a lover to do for you, is what you should be doing for yourself first.
Be honest with yourself.
Honor your word aka have integrity
Do your very best
Acknowledge yourself
Be proud of yourself
Be loyal to yourself
Be brutally honest with yourself
Treat your body like a temple
Eat clean
Practice working your body
Breathe deeply
Meditate
Be clean
Journal
Maintain a clean environment
Reduce clutter
Participate in healthy conversations
When you make it a practice to do these things for yourself every single day for at least a year, then you are truly ready to be in a relationship. This can't work if you're in a relationship where one person wants this to work and the other person is unwilling. There is no point in doing that. Be with someone who is willing to elevate with you by working on you! This is about self love and self awareness. If they are unwilling to do the work then you need to keep it moving. Balance!!!!!!